Here is an important question. If you are anxious, does that label for what you are feeling, help you to know how to become less anxious?
The word anxious helps us to describe a set of feelings and emotional experiences such as, fear, apprehension, and panic. It is useful in this way. Anxious feelings are a different set of feelings from sad feelings or angry feelings.
But the answer to the question is – No.
Sometimes the words anxious or anxiety may even make us feel more anxious because the term carries with it a sense of an emotional experience which is happening to us over which we have no control.
In The House Within, the words ”stirred up” are used to describe a similar but different range of feelings such as fear, apprehension, rage, stress, overthinking and excitement.
If you are “stirred up”, that label gives you an idea of what you need to do to feel better.
This captures the essence of The House Within Model. The language is simple, everyday language that embodies within it where we are located emotionally, and what we need to do to help ourselves.
The House Within Model also introduces the language of “stirred down” to describe another set of emotions or feelings such as hopelessness, resentment, “poor me”, bitterness, “its not fair”, and envy. Grouping these feelings under the heading of “stirred down”, gives us a sense of where we are and what we need to do to feel better.
The House Within model also incorporates some techniques to help us change our emotional state if we want to. You will learn about “the spiral staircase”, “spinning” and “how to stop the spin”, about “good dots” and about “the books on the bookcase”. These all help and they are easy to use.
When people are introduced to the House Within model, they are relieved to find that it gives them structure in their emotional worlds where there was no structure before. The universal image of a house, and the easy to remember and identify 5 floors, are readily integrated into their understanding and rapidly applied with effective results.
Most importantly The House Within Model introduces us to the Ground floor. This is the floor where things work best for us. It is the floor of gratitude and compassion. On the Ground floor our relationships work better, our work is better, and we allow ourselves to be in touch with, and to attend to, what life is telling us we need to do next. Here we can have emotions such as anger, sadness, and fear but we do not have to become angry, sad or fearful. We can have our emotions without them controlling our state of mind. And the Ground floor is the only floor on which we genuinely think and make progress. Some people live their whole lives without ever getting to know their Ground floor. Ground floor functioning is important for individuals and communities.
The House Within model encourages us to look at what is happening to us emotionally from an outside or objective position. Rather than allowing ourselves to get caught up in each emotion we are asked to look from outside ourselves and get an overview of where we are in our House Within and what we need to do to feel better. In the House Within model, this is called Astronaut thinking.
The language, the emotional structure and techniques, give you more choice about how you live.